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Disclaimer: Things written in here are simply based on experience and are not intended to generalize for all guys. All content are created by the authors unless stated otherwise.
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Men and Make-Up
When asked for their thoughts regarding make-up on girls, most guys say that they prefer minimal or no make-up at all. But guys also say that the first thing they notice when seeing a girl for the first time is their physical appearance. This makes it all so confusing.
Actually, it’s not that confusing. What guys really like is the natural look, also known as the “no make-up” make-up look. You see, wearing make-up is not a total turn off for guys as long as you keep it real. Wear foundation for coverage and for smooth looking skin. A little hint of brush, some clear mascara on the eyelashes, a dash of natural colored lip gloss, and you’re good to go. So you can look like you’re not wearing make-up but still look pretty and polished.
Decode the Dude: His Hang-Outs
Hi, ladies. Did you miss me? Sorry, if it took a while for me to post something again. I was busy with work and all that.
It’s generally easy to tell the personality of a person based on the little things such as the stuff he does, how he dresses himself, etcetera, etcetera. And as the title suggests, you can determine a guy’s personality based on where he usually hang-outs. Now, I’m not exactly stereotyping guys. This is just the general picture.
- The hang-out: Computer shop, internet cafe, toy stores
The 411: It’s normal for guys to hang-out at computer shops to play LAN games, go online, and all that sort of stuff. But if you find that guy hanging out at these places more often than the so-called “normal”, you may classify him as the gamer time. And as for the toy stores, I mean those stores that sell collector’s items. These guys are the geeky and tech-savvy types.
The conversation: Chat him up about games and techie stuff. You don’t have to pretend like you know everything there is about computer games. You can just simply ask him questions. Or better yet, you can ask him to teach you how to play.
- The hang-out: Music bar
The 411: When I say music bar, I mean those bars where indie bands play. Guys who usually hang-out at these places are obviously music buffs who are always on the look-out for up and coming indie bands. Anywhere with good music, count them in.
The conversation: Ask him about the band. Talk to him about music. Ask him about the kind of music that he likes and tell him about yours too. It’s as simple as that.
- The hang-out: Artsy cafes, art exhibits, or book stores
The 411: These guys love art and literature, which basically come hand-in-hand almost every time. These guys are the kind of guys who would love a long conversation about almost anything under the sun. Photographers, artists, bookworms fall under this category.
The conversation: Talk to him about anything. As I’ve said, this type of guy loves a good conversation. It’s a bonus if you can talk to him about art and books. And if you can carry a conversation with him for hours, you will definitely spark his interest.
- The hang-out: The gym
The 411: He’s the athletic type or the health buff. Either way, he’s basically the kind of guy who’s conscious about his body and there’s nothing wrong with that. He knows how to take care of himself and that’s a good thing.
The conversation: Sports, sports, sports! If you don’t know anything about sports, you can always start the conversation with a question. Ask him about the latest game, or his favorite sport, or his favorite team, the latest line of a sports brand, etcetera. You know the drill.
There you go. You see, talking to guys is really not that hard. You just have to play you cards right. So whenever you find yourself at any of these places with a guy, just remember the tips I gave you and you’ll have no problem having a conversation with him. Good luck! ;)
Dudes and Diets
When out for dinner, will you order a bowl of veggie salad or will you go for steak and rice? Hmm. Believe it or not, guys don’t really dig stick-thin girls. Guys love seeing a girl get down and dirty with huge hamburger. With proper table manners, of course. It won’t really turn them off because guys love a girl with a healthy appetite. So stop starving yourself to death if you think being thin is the only way to attract guys. That is so wrong.
Now, it’s okay if you really want to go on a diet, do so but in a moderate way. Don’t go for extreme measures. And make sure you are not doing it for anyone else. Do it for yourself. Remember that a think waistline can never outdo confidence. As long as you are confident, you’re good to go. Love yourself for who you are and you’re sure to find someone who will love you just as much.
What Really Turns Him Off
Turn-offs really varies from guy to guy. But there are things in general that will make him run off in the opposite direction if he sees these things in a girl. So what are those?
- Poor hygiene. I’ve been saying this over and over again. Practice proper hygiene, ladies. You don’t have to be decked out in the latest fashion. You can be in the simplest clothes and still look good as long as you have proper hygiene. Bad breath, dirty fingernails, body odor. Stuff like that will scare him off. So please, girls, hygiene. Don’t ever forget that.
- Bad manners. Your mother taught you manners for lots of reasons. Mainly, manners are for social grace. Being rude is never cool. Speaking with your mouth full doesn’t look good. Good manners will make you look poised and polish.
- Nasty gossip. Gossiping never does anyone any good in life. Gossip just creates conflicts. Guys get turned off by girls who gossip a lot. Especially if it’s about some nasty unverified rumor. Sure, gossiping is fun but keep it minimal. And, girls, just gossip amongst yourselves. Never around guys. Because believe it or not, guys love to gossip as much as girls do. It’s just that they’re so much better at keeping it among themselves.
- Being too needy and clingy. Guys love the chase. Guys love going for something that is hard-to-get. Generally, they get turned-off when a girl is being too clingy and needy. So even if you like a guy too much, don’t make him feel that you want to be together all the time. Make him chase you. But don’t overdo it, else he might give up. Just make it a little more exciting for him so he won’t get tired of you.
And there you go. These are the things that generally turn guys off. That’s all I can think of for now. Haha. Pardon me because my brain is still messed up right now. Okay?
Decode the Dude: When He Likes and Loves
It’s hard to read the opposite sex’s mind. So what exactly goes on in his mind when he likes a girl? Here’s the answer to that.
Stage 1: He’s confused yet whether he likes you or not. Sure, he notices you and your smile and your other physical attributes. Sometimes, you would catch him staring one second and then dropping his gaze on the next. Oh, and no one knows about this. Not even his friends. He’s still figuring out if he really likes you or not.
Stage 2: When he finally figured out that he likes you, he’ll let you know. Not that he intends to. It’s just that you will soon notice him staring at you more often than usual and when you catch him staring, sometimes he won’t even bother to look away. He will make eye contact for a second or two then look away, and then stare again when you’re not looking. Then repeat. If you’re friends with him, you may notice that he texts or IMs you more frequently about nonsense stuff. And he would tease you if he’s that type of guy who teases the girl he likes.
Stage 3: His friends begin to notice that he’s been showering you more attention than usual. Or he simply told his friends that he likes you though this one is more unlikely. But it doesn’t matter how his friends found out. This stage is when his friends know that he likes you and they would tease him about it. Even in front of you. Or you will catch them staring at you, grinning foolishly while he is looking totally humiliated. If these signs are not present, don’t fret. His friends might just be good at keeping secrets.
Stage 4: He asks you out on a date. Well, he might say that it’s not a date even though it really is. Whether it’s a movie date or a dinner date depends on his style.
Stage 5: This is the part where he can’t get enough of you. After going on that first date, he will find new ways and excuses to be with you, may it be a study session or a movie marathon or simply hanging out with his buddies. At this point, he’s finally bordering between like and love.
Stage 6: After a few more twists and turns in his mind and after memorable moments spent with you, the final stage is when he is really sure that he really loves you. This final stage is the confession. And now it’s your turn to be confused.
Now, not all guys go through these stages. But this is the most common thing that happens given the situation. ‘Til next post, girls. :)